The Introverted Leader: Thriving in the extroverted business world
By Jennifer B. Kahnweiler
"Do you have to be extroverted to be a leader?" asked a new career-coaching client. My answer: a resounding "no."
Introverts bring many unique strengths to organizations, including a focus on depth, an ability to listen, and a calm, reflective nature. If career counselors and coaches can deepen their understanding of how introverts are "wired," they can help create more wins for introverted clients and their organizations.
In today's extroverted business world, introverts can feel ignored, overlooked, and misunderstood. In fact, according to my research-a two-and-a-half year national study of introverted professionals-four out of five introverts say extroverts are more likely to get ahead in their workplace. What's more, over 40 percent say they would like to change their introverted tendencies, but don't know where or how to begin.
The good news? Introverts can practice extroverted tendencies. There is no one-size-fits-all strategy, but with time and practice, introverted professionals can learn to build on their quiet strength and succeed.
What is Introversion, Anyway?
Unlike shyness, a product of anxiety or fear in social settings, introversion is a key
part of personality-a hardwired orientation-and may be best defined by several characteristic behaviors, including the need to be alone, process information internally, and "think first, talk later." Introverts prefer writing to talking, keep personal matters private, and avoid showing emotion.
The Hard Realities
"It's not easy being green," laments Muppet Kermit the Frog. Same goes for being introverted in an extroverted business culture. With their appetite for talk and attention, extroverts dominate the workplace. Meanwhile, introverts-with their quiet smarts and unsung successes-sit on the professional sidelines. Some hard realities faced by introverted professionals:
- People exhaustion
Introverts can experience an assortment of ailments at work-headaches, backaches, stomachaches, and more-yet feel fine off the job. This mind-body response to stress can result from a wide range of factors. The chief culprit: people exhaustion.
- Project overload
Introverts tend to have difficulty saying no and find it equally hard to ask for help or direction. As a result, they frequently feel overloaded with projects and deadlines-hurting their on-the-job performance and work-life balance.
Introverts typically stay mum about their accomplishments-seeming to abide by the old Southern adage, "Don't brag on yourself." Yet today careers are made or broken by what others know about a person's skills and potential. Introverts, therefore, can miss out on promotions or plum assignments simply because they don't sell themselves.
- Unheard ideas
Introverts often have great ideas that go unheard. In group settings, they may show up with smart solutions, yet can't seem to find an opening in which to share them. Even in one-on-one conversations-especially with talkers-they have trouble interjecting their ideas and being heard. This can also create a negative impression, affecting their career advancement.
- Failure to "play the game"
Introverts routinely retreat from office politics. Sure, politics can be nasty, but much of the game is natural and necessary, particularly for building relationships up and down an organization. Introverts, with their desire to be low-key, often fail to sniff out important politicking opportunities and wind up watching their extroverted colleagues get ahead.
There is no magic bullet for managing your introversion. But in today's noisy business world and workplace, introverts can learn how to thrive. The goal is not changing your personality or natural work style, but embracing and expanding who you are. As an ongoing framework, follow the "4 P's": preparation (devising game plans); presence (focusing on the moment); push (stretching and growing); and practice (rehearsing and refining new skills). This process can also be used as a coaching tool. To get started, offer these practical tips to your introverted clients:
1. Have a game plan.
Rather than wing it on the people part of your job, have a game plan. Prepare for high-stakes meetings and conversations-anticipating questions and rehearsing your responses. Fact is, just as you strategize for key projects and tasks, you need to plan ahead for connecting with people-and taking regular timeouts to refuel your energy.
2. Communicate early and often.
It's easy for introverts to be out of sight-and out of mind. So, take the initiative in sharing information-communicating early and often with higher-ups, team members, and project stakeholders. Don't wait to be asked for updates or news about your accomplishments. Find out what people need to feel confident in you and provide it to them-ahead of time.
3. Match the medium to the message.
Resist the temptation to hide behind e-mail. It may appear to be the easiest or safest channel, but it's not always the right one. For every exchange, match the medium to the message-determining if texting, e-mail, phone, or face-to-face is best. Texting and e-mail may be great for quick exchanges, but they miss the mark in critical high-touch areas, including developing relationships and delivering difficult news.
4. Use social networking to set the stage.
Technology is a great tool for preparing to meet people. Use social networking Web sites such as Facebook and Twitter to set the stage for connecting with others in person at meetings and events. You can introduce yourself, send "news you can use" items, and warm up cold leads-all in a low-key yet friendly way.
5. Get your voice in the room.
Without delay, speak up in meetings and conference calls. Try to make your first comment no more than five minutes into the session. Even a quick question, remark, or paraphrase will do. You need to be seen as a contributor, but the longer you wait, the harder it becomes.
6. Stand up to "talkers."
Don't be afraid to take on the talkers in group or one-on-one settings. There are several ways to stand up and get a word in edgewise. One simple, sure-fire strategy: hold up your hand, give the stop or timeout signal, and calmly announce, "I'd like to say something."
7. Value humor.
"A smile is the shortest distance between two people," mused entertainer Victor Borge. As a reserved, inner-focused contributor, you can overcome perceptions of being standoffish or too serious by smiling, laughing, and having fun now and then. You need not "yuk it up"-just be good-humored.
Finally, practice, practice, practice. Learning new skills and behaviors may be uncomfortable at first, but with conscious repetition and refinement, you can manage your introversion-and thrive in the extroverted business world.
Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, Ph.D., is a workplace and careers expert and author of The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength (Berrett-Koehler, $19.95). Founder and president of AboutYOU, Inc., an Atlanta-based leadership consultancy, she is an executive coach and corporate speaker. Contact her on the Web at aboutyouinc.com and theintrovertedleaderblog.com.
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