06/14/2024

How Eliminating “Just” from Relationships Improves Connection

Focus on the care instead of the effort

Earlier this year, I was on the receiving end of an intervention. Well, maybe not that extreme. Let's say a stern talking to. Turns out I downplay good things about myself – thoughts and actions – a lot. Someone close to me finally had enough.

Downplaying is the opposite of "making something out of nothing." It's taking something we've done – thoughtful, kind, loving, etc – and making it out to be nothing.

It wasn't something I noticed at first. Of course not. Downplaying how I show up has been second nature my entire life. There was always more that could have been done. Better choices or outcomes. Perfectionism and thinking that we are missing the mark in interpersonal interaction are common tendencies for the neuro-spicy.

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